October 12, 2009

Like A Woman-to-Woman Talk About Sex & Pleasure

A book review of 'Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction' and why it's worth a read.

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Dr. Debby Herbenick, a sex educator at Indiana University, is also a regular contributor to Kinsey Confidential in our podcasts and blogs, answering your questions about sex and intimacy.

She recently released her first book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.

Herbenick’s guiding principle throughout the book is that sex should feel good, and she encourages you to measure what you read, hear, think, and feel against that standard, as you figure out what that means for you personally.  Her goal is to help you develop your own sex life into something fun, empowering, satisfying, and pleasurable.

Thoroughly Researched

This book is solidly researched, drawing on Dr. Herbenick’s own research, as well as her rich knowledge of current sex research around the world, but it’s easy to read. Dr. Herbenick’s tone is friendly and straightforward – like talking to a smart girlfriend.  She explains the science of sex clearly – what happens in the female body and why, before and during sex.

Herbenick sprinkles her book with fun facts, clear diagrams, and short quizzes that give you a quick snapshot of what matters to you about every facet of sex.  The book chapters cover:

  • female sexual anatomy
  • desire & how a woman’s mind often leads her body
  • the physical mechanics of sexual arousal
  • orgasm – yup, a whole chapter!
  • the wide variety of sex toys
  • safe and pleasurable anal play
  • sexual positions
  • communication – why it matters so much, and how to make it easier

With so many sex “how-to” books and advice columnists out there ranging from dull to dubious, it’s refreshing  to have a fun, frank discussion of sex for women from a woman’s perspective, backed with real science.