We don’t fully understand why some women experience multiple orgasms and others do not. In part, it may have to do with expectations about sex and orgasm. After all, even one orgasm is difficult for some women to experience, so some women may be happy with one orgasm and may not even try to have a second orgasm after their first.
Dr. Alfred Kinsey felt that there was fluidity in human sexuality and that more people would be attracted to both sexes if society was more accepting and embracing of the diversity of human sexual attraction, interest and behavior.
Some women who lubricate quite a lot enjoy it or look to it as a sign of their sexual excitement. Other women find that it may be enjoyable up to a point but that too much lubrication can interfere with vaginal sensation or their ability to “feel” their partner during intercourse.
Although the term “sex addiction” is often used in the media, it is not used as commonly among scientific circles. That’s not to say that sex researchers don’t encounter people with problems related to sex. In fact, it’s quite clear that a small proportion of people experience their sexuality in a way that may feel out of control or addictive.
A woman may become pregnant whether or not she lubricates or has an orgasm during sex. Your level of sexual excitement has nothing to do with your ability to become pregnant – unless you’re avoiding sex because it’s not exciting.
The experience of sexual pleasure can also tap into people’s brain chemistry in ways that, as scientists, we don’t fully understand yet. For example, I have heard, from several people who describe sadness associated with sex for reasons they don’t understand.
People can act out romantic sexual fantasies or very explicit no-feelings-involved sexual fantasies. They can be powerful or submissive, have sex with one person or many, or approach a stranger or even a long lost, high school love for sex, massage, making out or to become pregnant.
It’s common for women and men to say that there’s something they like about having even just a little bit of pubic hair. Some people find that it feels very sensual to have a little bit of pubic hair to tug on – that it can enhance sensation during masturbation or partner sex. Others just like how it looks.
There’s something about the power of vibrating products that can make it easier for many women to orgasm. We don’t fully understand why vibrators are so effective at easing some women’s orgasms, but they can be.
The glans clitoris sometimes seems to fuse to the clitoral hood. Changes to the structre of the vulva, whether to the clitoris or the vaginal lips, can occur as part of menopause, when estrogen levels decrease, or as a result of a genital skin condition such as one called lichen sclerosus.
You consider yourself heterosexual and you are attracted to women but actually prefer transgendered women. Some people might consider that to be bisexual as the people you are interested in are biological males who live their lives as women, whether through their behaviors alone or with the assistance of hormones or surgery.
A woman may be more likely to experience vaginal dryness if she is stressed, taking antihistamines or if she has just taken a warm shower or bath. Women who are breastfeeding also tend to be more prone to vaginal dryness.