Men and women both show genital arousal at regular intervals during sleep. Dreams don’t have to change who you are and what kind of partner you want while you’re awake. Many people have sexual dreams about people they don’t want to have sex with in waking life.
Q: I wasn’t educated about sexuality until freshman year of high school. I didn’t know girls could like girls, but I came to the conclusion that I was bi sophomore year. I tried coming out to my mom recently, now that I am in college, but she dismissed it, saying I hadn’t showed any signs of being gay as a child and thus it was just a phase. This completely screwed me over mentally because it was already so difficult to go through the questioning process. My family is super conservative and Christian.
There is great diversity among gay men. Some bars attract or market to certain types of gay men, but there are gay men of all sizes, shapes, ages, and varying degrees of expressed masculinity or femininity.