Some surveys of parents, teachers and caregivers suggest that the majority of young children touch their own genitals and many also play age-appropriate games with other children, such as playing doctor, I’ll show you mine or “mommy and daddy” (or “mommy and mommy” or “daddy and daddy” as the case may be).
It is sometimes said that sex is like a dance in the way that it’s often more fun and more pleasurable if two people are attuned to teach others’ bodies. Sometimes the focus is on one person, dipping or being dipped, or turning around in circles. But the other person gets a turn to shine, too.
Sometimes couples engage in power struggles without talking about it. People may withhold sex from one another as punishment or perhaps they may give in to sex, but act as if they’re not enjoying it as a way of getting back at their partner.
Self-pleasuring and exploring both genital and non-genital parts of the body can be important experiences to try as you take steps toward becoming more comfortable with your body, with sexual touch and with opening yourself to pleasure.