There is nothing necessarily “wrong” with people for wanting to be in an open relationship just as there is nothing necessarily “wrong” with people for wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. They are simply different relationship preferences, each with their own challenges and advantages.
It is true that some women – like some men – have one and only love, or one and only sexual partnership, and never have another. But even among older women and men now, whose spouses die after a marriage that may have spanned several decades, some people do begin new romantic or sexual relationships.
When I teach human sexuality classes or guest lecture about sex in other professors’ classes, students always ask for tips about how to talk to their partner about sex. We all get it: talking about sex is critical for safer, more pleasurable sex. But how do you actually do it?
Often when women and men describe sex as “robotic”, what they are really noticing is a lack of connection with their partner. When two people aren’t connecting emotionally during sex, then all that’s left are the physical aspects to sex, which can feel like they’re “going through the motions”.
My wife cannot come unless she stimulates herself. She has had dreams of lesbian sex and sex with multiple men and strange men. Am I losing her? Is my wife secretly longing for sex outside of marriage?
My husband and I use condoms for protection and recently we had a scare when a condom broke. I ended up not being pregnant. At first he said he was disappointed that I wasn’t pregnant, then said he was relieved since money is tight. I then did something that I can’t even explain to myself.
Many young women and men – at some time or another – wonder if they are ready to have sex. And it’s not just a one-time thought! Even when two people decide to be sexual together, they may have second thoughts about whether to have sex another time. Then there’s the issue of finding a new partner.
I have been in a relationship for more than three years with another guy. It’s my first relationship ever. Lately I think about cheating on him with other people but he is the nicest and cutest guy I’ve ever met before. I don’t want to lose him but I want to know what it feels like to be with other guys.
Sometimes my boyfriend watches porn and I can feel intimidated by this. I know this is a common and natural thing for people to do. Sometimes I think I’m okay with this and other times I can’t quit thinking why – Am I not pleasing him enough? Are the girls in his porn prettier than me? Is he thinking about them? I have talked to him about this before and he says it’s not a big deal and I have nothing at all to worry about. So why do I feel intimidated still?