Some people describe vaginismus, a condition that makes vaginal penetration difficult or impossible for some women, as being characterized by uncontrolled muscular spasms that are painful and prevent penetration. However, in research, these muscular spasms have not quite been identified even though women’s experience of pain in very real.
Often when women and men describe sex as “robotic”, what they are really noticing is a lack of connection with their partner. When two people aren’t connecting emotionally during sex, then all that’s left are the physical aspects to sex, which can feel like they’re “going through the motions”.
I’m 25 years old and I don’t have sex often, but I have masturbated every day for about two years now and I feel so guilty about it. I’m scared, too, because I’ve heard that masturbation can cause health problems or physical damage. Is that true?
I’m 18 and recently had sex for the first time. My girlfriend and I have now done it five times in the past month and I haven’t ejaculated any of the times. Is this something to be worried about? I’m still new, and thought maybe it just takes time. I still enjoy it, so it’s okay, but I’m just curious about what you think.
My sex partner and I have really good sexual chemistry together, but we’re complete opposites when we’re not having sex; is this a good thing? Is intensely passionate sex a sign of a healthy relationship or just a strong libido?
Going into my relationship with my boyfriend, I was a virgin and he was not. I had been told in the past by my gynecologist that I have a very small vagina. It has never been easy inserting tampons or even my boyfriend’s finger. Every time we’ve tried to have sex, he can’t get in me at all. What can we do besides try lube?
I have developed a low-level eating disorder in response to being sexually rejected by someone. I think I know what the basic connection here is: I have gotten a strong emotional impression that it is a mistake to enjoy myself physically, that I don’t deserve to feel physical pleasure and that if I do I will be unclean.
Whenever I try to stimulate my girlfriend’s clitoris whether orally or with my hand she says it tickles or hurts. I have never experienced anything like this with past relationships. Any suggestions to help her become comfortable with clitoral stimulation?