My girlfriend and I have been in a lesbian relationship for nine months. She had dated several girls before me and had sex with a few of them. She was my first. There was a lot of sex in the beginning of our relationship, but as it progressed the sex has dwindled to being once every two or three weeks.
The experience of sexual pleasure can also tap into people’s brain chemistry in ways that, as scientists, we don’t fully understand yet. For example, I have heard, from several people who describe sadness associated with sex for reasons they don’t understand.
Just as people have different definitions of what it means to “have sex” – in other words, whether “sex” is defined as oral, vaginal or anal sex, there are also varied definitions of abstinence. That said, a common understanding of abstinence suggests that one can absolutely be abstinent even if they have had sex in the past.
My girlfriend and I have sex generally between two and three times a day. Can this be harmful to our relationship and emotional attachment to each other? If so, are there ways to increase that such as bonding after sex, cuddling, etc.?