Q: I used to masturbate a lot but i stopped now I don’t have sexual feelings for long while having sex with my husband. A: Based on how you worded your question, it sounds to me like there was a correlation between how frequently you masturbated and feelings of greater sexual satisfaction with your husband. Many individuals believe that if they have a sexual partner, their need for self-pleasure should go down. This couldn’t be further from the truth! While some individuals are generally more turned on by partnered sex, many still like to make sure they’ve filled up their own tank before taking off to enjoy sex with another.