Some surveys of parents, teachers and caregivers suggest that the majority of young children touch their own genitals and many also play age-appropriate games with other children, such as playing doctor, I’ll show you mine or “mommy and daddy” (or “mommy and mommy” or “daddy and daddy” as the case may be).
Many young women and men have questions about having sex for the first time and losing one’s virginity. In regard to your question, it is indeed possible to experience vaginal bleeding from either fingering or penile penetration.
Some men find it very difficult to get or maintain an erection with partners who they do not know very well. Often they find that they cannot “make” themselves have an erection just because they want one.
Many couples have different levels of sexual desire as well as different types of things that they enjoy doing sexually. Sometimes these preferences cannot be changed. Other times, there is room for movement.
When I teach human sexuality classes or guest lecture about sex in other professors’ classes, students always ask for tips about how to talk to their partner about sex. We all get it: talking about sex is critical for safer, more pleasurable sex. But how do you actually do it?
Given the lack of information about sex that is available to many young women and men, many people aren’t sure what to expect when it comes to sex – what to do during sex as well as what sex feels like.
Often when women and men describe sex as “robotic”, what they are really noticing is a lack of connection with their partner. When two people aren’t connecting emotionally during sex, then all that’s left are the physical aspects to sex, which can feel like they’re “going through the motions”.