The book focuses on why women in particular have sex and is based on data from 1006 women conducted by the two researchers. Honestly, it’s difficult, without being able to read the book, to figure out if the interviews were more survey/quantitatively based or more qualitatively based in-depth interviews…
Last night, I had the opportunity to hear Jessica Valenti, founder of and blogger for Feministing.com, speak about her new book, The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women, in honor of Women’s History Month.
Many women have questions about their size and shape of their genital parts – and quite a few women have wondered, like you, if their masturbation has played a part. There is no “standard” size of shape to women’s labia and neither masturbation nor partner sex are what shape a woman’s genital parts.
This week’s Sunday edition of the New York Times featured an article titled “What Do Women Want?” which attempts, and in my opinion fails for a variety of reasons, to explain the complexity that is female desire (and arousal, but we’ll get to that).
Dr. Sandra Leiblum has done some research on PSAS, or Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome. Some women with this condition can have up to 200 orgasms a day. I did the math and found that’s about the equivalent of an orgasm every three and a half minutes. Can you imagine??
I have developed a low-level eating disorder in response to being sexually rejected by someone. I think I know what the basic connection here is: I have gotten a strong emotional impression that it is a mistake to enjoy myself physically, that I don’t deserve to feel physical pleasure and that if I do I will be unclean.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years. Our sex life was really good in the beginning and started decreasing rapidly. By the time that our first anniversary came, we were maybe having sex once a week at the most.
My new girlfriend tells me that she started exploring her genitalia at quite a young age and that she stimulated her clitoris frequently between the ages of 12-18. She now (age 21) thinks that her clitoris is not giving her the normal sensations when it is stimulated (i.e. she wonders if it has possibly been de-sensitized by the earlier activity).
I am a 22 year-old female and have been having trouble orgasming. (No surprise, right?) My boyfriend and I have been having sex for over 3 years and I used to come quickly and regularly, especially with direct clitoral stimulation. We still have sex often (a couple times a week), but I have not had an orgasm in over a year.
Every time I masturbate, which is once a week, I think I pee. I have a large amount of fluid come out of me that smells like pee. Now I know that this is not normal and I would like to know what I should do about it. I do not feel very comfortable talking to anyone about my problem.
I am 21 years old and I have been with about 20 people (guys and girls). I have been in a relationship for more than a year and he’s great; but he hasn’t been able to have me reach orgasm. I am getting tired of getting him off and he tries to get me off but it just gets me angry and that is all I focus on when I am with him.