Some men are able to make peace with the fact that this is just how their body works. When they’re in a relationship, they let their partner know that too. Other men choose to seek medical treatment. A urologist may be the kind of doctor most likely to be familiar with ways of treating this issue.
It sounds like you two just walked into a room and took your clothes off. Though that might be exciting for some people, many men and women find that spending time in foreplay helps them to feel more aroused. Foreplay can help men to get an erection and it can help women to lubricate or become “wet”.
Often, men find that if they keep the cut clean, apply an over the counter antibiotic cream and avoid further irritation from partner sex or masturbation, that it will heal on its own within a week or two.
Some men report having noticed a lack of pleasure or orgasm after they start taking medications, such as certain antidepressants or other medications. Sometimes this side effect of a lack of pleasure or orgasm can persist for a long time even after they stop taking the medication.
On one hand, using a condom can help both people to feel more relaxed and confident about sex knowing that they are taking measures to greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy and some sexually transmissible infections, or STIs. On the other hand, using a condom changes sensation for men.
Compulsive masturbation is experienced by a minority of men, but for some men masturbation almost seems to take over their life. They may find that masturbation gets in the way of their ability to develop or maintain a satisfying romantic relationship or that it gets in the way of friendships or even getting work done.
young men often get erections for no particular reason and sometimes during times when they wish they wouldn’t. As they grow older and begin being sexual with a partner, they may have the experience of not always getting erections when they want one, even if they feel sexually excited.