It’s unclear how many people act sexually during their sleep but when it does happen, people often don’t even know that they masturbate or attempt to be sexual with other people until they either approach someone for sex while sleeping or until they begin sharing a bed with a partner.
Many couples have different levels of sexual desire as well as different types of things that they enjoy doing sexually. Sometimes these preferences cannot be changed. Other times, there is room for movement.
There is nothing necessarily “wrong” with people for wanting to be in an open relationship just as there is nothing necessarily “wrong” with people for wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. They are simply different relationship preferences, each with their own challenges and advantages.
Although there have been a few case reports of individuals who feel tired or lethargic after sex or masturbation, I’m not aware of any reports of couples feeling so dramatically tired after sex that they find it difficult to go about their daily routine.
Often when women and men describe sex as “robotic”, what they are really noticing is a lack of connection with their partner. When two people aren’t connecting emotionally during sex, then all that’s left are the physical aspects to sex, which can feel like they’re “going through the motions”.
My wife and I are in our late 50s. We were having a friendly discussion about the frequency of love making at our age. I am up for 3-4 times a week. My wife thinks this is well above the norm. I say, maybe a bit above average, but who cares. Where are we on the Bell Curve?
For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy by Lonnie Barbach, PhD is a book that I commonly recommend to college students who take my human sexuality class. It is also a book that is frequently used in sex therapy for couples who are experiencing a range of issues related to their relationship and/or their sexual lives.
A while back I found porn videos on my boyfriend’s computer. Ever since, I have felt worthless, sad and like I can’t trust him. He promised he wouldn’t watch anymore but twice I have looked and found them again. My boyfriend says he doesn’t want to upset me, but that it’s just a guy thing – is it? Or am I not enough for him?
Recently, a Dallas-based pastor issued a 7-day sex challenge to married congregants – the idea being that they were supposed to try to have sex every day for seven days. While these so-called “sex challenges” may grab headlines, it is worth looking at them in more depth.
My sex partner and I have really good sexual chemistry together, but we’re complete opposites when we’re not having sex; is this a good thing? Is intensely passionate sex a sign of a healthy relationship or just a strong libido?
I have been in a relationship for more than three years with another guy. It’s my first relationship ever. Lately I think about cheating on him with other people but he is the nicest and cutest guy I’ve ever met before. I don’t want to lose him but I want to know what it feels like to be with other guys.