Too much friction and sex may feel uncomfortable or painful. Too little friction and it may not feel like much of anything is happening during intercourse. Wearing a condom adds to the friction during sex. Sometimes this added friction is a welcome sensation; other times, it is not.
Looking for vaginal bleeding after first intercourse is not a reliable test of whether or not a woman was a virgin. Also, many healthcare providers feel that so-called “virginity examinations” – in which a woman is examined by a doctor prior to first intercourse – place unfair pressures and burdens on women.
The term “asexuality” typically refers to organisms that reproduce without having sex. When it comes to human sexuality, however, researchers tend to use the term “asexual” to describe individuals who do not experience sexual attraction.
Often, men find that if they keep the cut clean, apply an over the counter antibiotic cream and avoid further irritation from partner sex or masturbation, that it will heal on its own within a week or two.
As women near menopause, estrogen levels drop and women may be more prone to experience pain or discomfort during sex. As the vagina becomes more dry, women are also prone to vaginal tearing, which can result in small amounts of bleeding during sex.
Though not having had intercourse by age 25 is less common these days, some people choose to wait to have sex until they find the right person, relationship or situation. There is nothing wrong with not having had vaginal intercourse by age 25.
To reduce the risk of vaginal cuts in the future, you may want to use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant, which can help to reduce friction. Also, some women find it more comfortable to “sit” on their partner’s finger so that they can maintain control over the pace and roughness of fingering.
Try using a water-based or silicone-based lubricant to make sex more comfortable and pleasurable and to reduce the risk of tearing. You might also try sex positions that give you more control so that you can make sure the sex that you do have is gentle in terms of impact and the way that it feels.