People have different reactions to dealing with masturbating about their ex. Some men and women try to stop thinking about their ex at all costs and may actively try to think of other people while they masturbate, or to focus on others by watching porn or reading erotica, to help them imagine sexual situations that involve other individuals.
Women’s experiences of pleasure and orgasm often change throughout life, in response to pregnancy, birth, health conditions, menopause, stress, and aging. Learning to talk about sexuality and how to make sex feel better for both of you will better situate you both for a lifetime of sexual enjoyment and exploration.
Compulsive masturbation is experienced by a minority of men, but for some men masturbation almost seems to take over their life. They may find that masturbation gets in the way of their ability to develop or maintain a satisfying romantic relationship or that it gets in the way of friendships or even getting work done.
Some women who lubricate quite a lot enjoy it or look to it as a sign of their sexual excitement. Other women find that it may be enjoyable up to a point but that too much lubrication can interfere with vaginal sensation or their ability to “feel” their partner during intercourse.
The clitoris extends backward into the body in two branches that may be stimulated from vaginal sex or other types of stimulation. This knowledge alone may give you different ideas for how to approach your body with ideas for stimulation.
Men’s bodies make sperm and the fluids that make up semen on an ongoing basis. Sperm only make up a small portion of the volume of semen. Much of a man’s seminal fluids come from his prostate gland and other glands called the cowper’s glands and seminal vesicles.
People can act out romantic sexual fantasies or very explicit no-feelings-involved sexual fantasies. They can be powerful or submissive, have sex with one person or many, or approach a stranger or even a long lost, high school love for sex, massage, making out or to become pregnant.
If you’re taking your time and lasting longer to enjoy the sensations, then more power to you! If you find that you are unable to come sooner as much as you try, then expanding your masturbation routine might help your body adapt to different types of stimulation.
Sometimes men wake up in the middle of the night and notice that they are feeling aroused, that their penis is erect or that they have just ejaculated. Other times, men don’t notice anything while they are sleep. They simply wake up the next morning and realize, from their underwear or sheets, that they ejaculated some time during the night.
Masturbation can actually help men learn to control the timing of their ejaculation. By practicing very specific masturbation techniques, you may be able to get more in touch with your body so that you can stop yourself from ejaculating before you’re ready.
A woman may be more likely to experience vaginal dryness if she is stressed, taking antihistamines or if she has just taken a warm shower or bath. Women who are breastfeeding also tend to be more prone to vaginal dryness.
As it turns out, it is not uncommon for women to feel as though they have to pee in relation to sexual arousal or sexual behavior. The clitoris, vagina and urethra (which connects to the bladder) are so closely connected that some scientists have suggested that we use the term “clitoral complex” to refer to these interconnections.
Some men find it very difficult to get or maintain an erection with partners who they do not know very well. Often they find that they cannot “make” themselves have an erection just because they want one.