If you find yourself in a situation where you want an erection but it doesn’t seem to be happening, try to focus on non-genital types of sexual play that you find arousing but that are not focused on your penis such as kissing, breast play, sensual touching or stimulating your partner’s genitals with your fingers, lips or tongue.
For many years, vaginismus was considered to be a condition that involved the muscles around the vagina going into involuntary spasms, thus preventing penetration. However, research has been mixed on this feature of the condition, with quite a few doctors and researchers being unable to find any evidence of actual muscle spasms.
On one hand, using a condom can help both people to feel more relaxed and confident about sex knowing that they are taking measures to greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy and some sexually transmissible infections, or STIs. On the other hand, using a condom changes sensation for men.
Women’s experiences of pleasure and orgasm often change throughout life, in response to pregnancy, birth, health conditions, menopause, stress, and aging. Learning to talk about sexuality and how to make sex feel better for both of you will better situate you both for a lifetime of sexual enjoyment and exploration.
young men often get erections for no particular reason and sometimes during times when they wish they wouldn’t. As they grow older and begin being sexual with a partner, they may have the experience of not always getting erections when they want one, even if they feel sexually excited.
The clitoris extends backward into the body in two branches that may be stimulated from vaginal sex or other types of stimulation. This knowledge alone may give you different ideas for how to approach your body with ideas for stimulation.
Men often go to great lengths to hide the fact that they have an erection in social situations. They may try to adjust their pants, hold things like a book or a newspaper in front of their crotch area, or try to think distracting thoughts in the hopes that such thoughts will dampen their erection.
Nearly all men will experience difficulties getting or keeping an erection at some point in their lives. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this and so when erection problems happen to them or their partner, they may worry that they have done something wrong.
Although it is somewhat difficult for women to find it difficult to orgasm during intercourse, most men find that they are usually able to ejaculate and experience orgasm. That said, some men find it quite difficult to ejaculate.