August 20, 2015

Q&A: I Want To Give My Girlfriend An 11″ Dildo. Is This Safe?

Like anything else, the person giving the gift should think about how much their partner actually wants it.

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Question: I would to surprise my girlfriend by buying her an 11 inch long dildo but before buying it I would like to know if this toy is really safe? And anything else I should know. Thanks for your help.

Before you surprise your girlfriend with an 11 inch dildo, have you thought about whether she would like such a gift? Or is this just your idea? I’m asking because although I know of many instances where a vibrator or dildo is a welcome and well-enjoyed gift, I know of many other examples where the person receiving the gift was bothered or even offended by being given a sex toy. Like anything else, the person giving the gift should think about how much their partner actually wants it.

Sex Toy Experience

If your girlfriend enjoys playing with sex toys, either alone or with you, then the toy may be a fine addition to her collection. If she’s never tried a sex toy, but has said she wants to try one – and a particularly large one – then the dildo you’re considering could be a fine option.

If, however, she’s new to sex toys or has never expressed interest in such a large dildo, you might think twice before getting it.

The Size of the Dildo

Most vibrators and dildos are closer to a typical penis size – that is, most measure about 3 to 6 inches in length, with the average being about 5 and a half inches long.

At 11 inches, the dildo you’re considering is about twice the average length. That’s a lot! And your girlfriend may feel pressured to take in more of the toy than she’s comfortable doing, so if you give her such a large toy, at least be aware of this and try to communicate that you want to encourage her own exploration, but only in ways that she’s comfortable and finds pleasurable.

I wouldn’t expect her to be able to accept the entire dildo into her vagina or anus either – that is a very long product that wouldn’t fit inside most people easily or comfortably.

Whatever size dildo or vibrator you find, it would be wise to give her some water-based lubricant with the toy as that can make it easier and more pleasurable to use.

Shopping Together

Finally, if you’re not sure it this is the toy for her, why not surprise her with a visit to a sex toy shop? That way you can explore the possible options together and decide if she wants a toy and, if so, which one feels the most exciting or intriguing to her.