Q: Why did I become multi-orgasmic during intercourse as I got older? I became that way two years ago and I’m 43 now. I’ve been sexually active since I was 20, and I’ve been married for 15 years. I enjoy it, but why all of a sudden?
Multiple orgasms are generally considered to be more than one orgasm occurring in a row, happening with continued stimulation – and there’s been fairly little research on them.
A recent US probability survey found that just under half of adult women report having experienced multiple orgasms, which is consistent with some earlier research. That said, we don’t know what proportion of women could potentially experience multiple orgasms given certain circumstances – for example, if they maintained stimulation (during masturbation or intercourse or other kinds of sex play) and tried to have a second or third orgasm; or if they used a vibrator (vibrators have been found to be associated with quicker and more reliable orgasms, across sexes), and so on.
It’s Not About Age
We do know that not everyone who has multiple orgasms has had them since they first became sexually active. Anecdotally, many women have a similar experience as you do, in the sense that they were sexually active for some years before having their first multiple orgasms. We also know that not everyone who is capable of having multiple orgasms has them with any regularity. For some people, it’s just not a frequent experience. Others don’t try to have multiple orgasms or, even for some who want to keep trying, their partner might not continue stimulating them past the first orgasm.
As to why yours just started happening, I cannot say. Some women find that orgasms – whether single or multiple – come more easily during sex that is particularly exciting or emotionally intimate. We do know, from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, that increasing proportions of women report having orgasms in their 30s, 40s, and 50s and so there’s some sense (building on previous research) that orgasm may become easier with time, experience, and a familiar partner. [Orgasm tends to become a bit more difficult in older age, however, often due to a person’s own health issues, or their partner’s health issues, or due to vaginal dryness.]
I’m sorry we can’t explain the orgasm change more specifically for you but glad, of course, that you’re enjoying this new development in your sexual exploration.