December 18, 2008

Looking For A Good (Gift) Book About Sex?

Dr. Debby Herbenick gives a recommended reading list of sexuality books perfect for that hard to buy for person on your holiday list.

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Many people find that books are an ideal gift, at holidays or at any other time of the year. After all, they fit many different budgets (whether you’re purchasing a new or used book) and the knowledge gleaned from a book can be helpful to a person for years to come.

Given the enormous number of available books about sex and relationships, it can be difficult to know where to start looking. Here are some books that we thought you might be interested to learn about, whether for yourself or someone on your gift list:

The Guide to Getting It On is a thick volume that briefly touches on a range of sexual subjects such as lubrication, communication, self-pleasuring, hooking up, vaginal/oral/anal sex, sex toys, sexual orientation, gender issues and much more. Some people use it as a coffee table book in their dorm room or home as a way to start conversation among friends (or potential dates).

Becoming Orgasmic may be better suited as a gift for yourself… unless you have a female friend or partner who you know really wants to learn to orgasm and would be open and comfortable getting such a book from you. This book highlights various exercises that can be done by a woman alone or with a partner, as a means of helping her to explore her body, her feelings about her body and sexuality, and her possibilities of sexual pleasure and orgasm.

The Relationship Cure is based on sound research about improving people’s relationships. The tips in this book may be helpful for various relationship types: friendships, roommmates, romantic/sexual relationships, or family relationships. If you’ve ever felt like you had trouble connecting with someone you wanted to connect with, or that someone important to you just didn’t “get” you, or you wished you could have a more affectionate relationship with someone, you may find this book to be a valuable resource.

PostSecret: Extraordinary Confessions from Ordinary Lives is not a sex/relationship book per se, except that many of the “secrets” sent to Frank Warren as part of his now-famous request for people to send him their secrets on artfully drawn postcards are, in fact, about people’s most intimate feelings and relationships. It may be that looking through other people’s secrets, some of which are touching or heartbreaking, helps you to explore issues of meaning to you or opens up dialogue between you and someone you care about.

Happy Holidays!