Question: Everything can be grown—for example, one can grow muscles or increase their intelligence—but sadly my penis cannot grow. As a teenager I didn’t eat well, drank and smoked, didn’t get a lot of sleep, and I masturbated most days. I think that’s why I have a small penis now as an adult. Is there anything I can eat to make it grow now?
I’m sorry to say, but I know of no food, drink, pills, herbs, or magic potions that can help a man change the size of his penis, whether that means helping it to grow larger or smaller in size.
It Is What It Is
The size of an adult man’s penis is what it is—and, except for surgery, I know of no way to change it.
Even surgery is not often recommended except in extreme cases as it carries significant risks, including the risk of developing scar tissue that can affect men’s erections.
It’s also worth noting that none of the behaviors you mentioned are known to have any effect on a man’s penis size.
In fact, the behaviors you described—eating poorly, drinking, smoking, not sleeping a lot, and masturbating frequently—are common to many adolescent men.
It doesn’t sound like you’ve done anything particularly different compared to other teenagers and, as I said, none of these factors are linked with penis size.
Pleasure Is More Than The Sum Of Your Parts
Although one can’t grow their penis size, one can learn to use their penis in more pleasurable ways.
If you have a sexual partner, talk with him or her about their sexual likes and dislikes. Share what feels good when you have sex together.
Try to vary your sexual experiences by embracing a wide range of sexual and sensual behaviors.
For example, many couples find that it’s pleasurable to massage each other, to take baths together, to read erotic stories together, to role play, to dress up together, to hang out naked on the weekends, to engage in breast stimulation, to try oral sex, to spank each other a bit, and so on.
There are endless ways to please each other sexually and very few of them have much, if anything, to do with the genitals.
Check out books like Great in Bed or Moregasm to learn more about sexual exploration. I think you’ll find that there are exciting and satisfying sexual experiences to explore that go well beyond penis size.
Next Question: How Do I Find Out If My Girlfriend Is A Virgin Like Me?
I have been raised in a Christian household, and have certain views towards sex. One in particular is abstinence. I am a virgin, and plan to be when I marry. However, I also have no interest in marrying someone who isn’t a virgin. What is the best way to learn about my girlfriend’s past without being too confrontational?
Read Dr. Debby Herbenick’s response.
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