Despite Valentine’s Day being second to only New Year’s Eve in the most celebrated holiday worldwide, very little scientific attention has been dedicated to the topic. Our team at Good in Bed surveyed over 2,000 people to find out more about people’s expectations, attitudes, and participation in Valentine’s Day festivities.
If you’re into cupid’s holiday, like around 50% of women and 62% of men in our sample, you may already have your dinner reservations made, some flowers on order, a box of chocolates wrapped, or some lingerie ready for your partner.
While those are all very thoughtful gestures, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be limited to the traditional. Our survey revealed that many people have something a little more intimate in mind for Valentine’s Day! We could even call them great sexpectations!
Nearly 85% of people believed that having sex was an important part of Valentine’s Day and over 60% indicated they would be disappointed if they didn’t have sex. Make sure you’re talking to your partner about these expectations so you’re both on the same page with this. Maybe you want to take cupid’s holiday as an opportunity to suggest some sexual adventure. Interestingly, over 55% of the participants indicated they were willing to try something new sexually just because it’s Valentine’s Day. This finding wasn’t significantly different between men and women.
Although flowers, chocolate, and lingerie did top the list in gift-giving, 30% of people plan to give a more specifically sex-oriented gift. Things like sex toys are as convenient as your closest drug store, with great vibrators and lubricants available in the condom isle. This is an affordable fun gift that even the last minute gift-givers can get in on.
Maybe you’re in the other 50% of women and 40% of men who don’t plan to do anything special this Valentine’s Day. It’s just any other day to you. Maybe you’re not in a relationship, maybe you’re someone who thinks it is one of those “Hallmark holidays”, or maybe you’re just not feeling like it this year. That’s totally fine too. Make sure you talk to your partner about your plans (or lack thereof) to ward off any potential disappointments.
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be chalked full of unmet expectations. For more than 75% of our sample, its purpose is to show caring/affection to a romantic partner. For 25%, its purpose is to show caring/affection to friends or family. Valentine’s Day can simply be a great opportunity to be mindful of loved ones, romantic or not, and take the time to show people you love that you care. Whatever that looks like to you.