Question: My girlfriend and I have just discovered – much to our surprise and delight – that she is able to ejaculate during a particularly intense orgasm. Are there any additional hygienic steps we should take in the bedroom? I’m a little nervous about things soaking into the mattress.
Thanks for your question. It’s nice to hear that you and your girlfriend are enjoying this aspect of her sexual response.
Sharing The Fun
Sometimes women worry that their partner will be turned off by their female ejaculation but in fact many men and women find it exciting and arousing to experience a woman’s response in that way.
As there has been limited research on female ejaculation, it is unclear what percent of women have had this experience. However, chemical analyses of female ejaculation have indicated that the fluid is not urine and so there’s no need to worry that urine is getting into your mattress. It would only be her female ejaculation fluids.
As such, it’s not really all that different than thinking about semen, vaginal fluids, or other fluids (such as personal lubricant, if you use that) dampening the mattress.
Par For The Course
If you’re not worried about other sexual fluids (or saliva, as some people drool during their sleep) getting into the mattress, then there’s no need to worry about this either. Sex is full of various sights, sounds and scents – and occasionally fluids, too. It’s just par for the sex course.
However, some people like to keep their sheets and mattresses as free of fluids as possible. If that’s true for you, try laying a towel or two – or a blanket that you can easily wash – on the bed before you have sex.
Some people do this as a way to avoid getting various sexual fluids on their sheets either because they don’t like the wet spot or, if the fluids are significant, they worry about trapping fluids in their mattress over time.
Even if she only experiences female ejaculation on occasion, using towels or an extra layer of blanket will reduce the amount of other kinds of sexual fluids getting into your mattresses.
To learn more about female ejaculation including people’s experiences of it, check out The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
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