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Q & A: Is This Dream A Turning Point For My Sexuality?

Men and women both show genital arousal at regular intervals during sleep. Dreams don’t have to change who you are and what kind of partner you want while you’re awake. Many people have sexual dreams about people they don’t want to have sex with in waking life.

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Q&A: How Do I “Get Into It” After Forced Sexual Experiences?

“Tuning out” from sex is a survival response to non-consensual sex. It becomes kind of an automatic response so that later, even when you’re having sex with someone who you actually want to have sex with and consent to have sex with, it can be easy to slip into that same pattern and not really be present.

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Q & A: Will I Outgrow Premature Ejaculation?

Premature Ejaculation is particularly common among young men who are relatively new to sex. It can take time to become familiar with one’s own sexual response. Men and women both need time to understand how their body responds to sexual arousal and how they experience orgasm. Most men are able to find ways to delay ejaculation or to come to peace with understanding that this is just how their body works (and doesn’t necessarily need to be changed).

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Q & A: I Feel Like Such A Liar!

Q: I wasn’t educated about sexuality until freshman year of high school. I didn’t know girls could like girls, but I came to the conclusion that I was bi sophomore year. I tried coming out to my mom recently, now that I am in college, but she dismissed it, saying I hadn’t showed any signs of being gay as a child and thus it was just a phase. This completely screwed me over mentally because it was already so difficult to go through the questioning process. My family is super conservative and Christian.

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Q & A: How Dry Can Sex Get, With A Condom?

Not adding lubricant won’t affect condom use for most people. In part, this is because condom manufacturers generally add lubricant to most condoms anyway. A small amount of lubricant on the condom can help sex to feel more comfortable and pleasurable, and may also help to reduce the risk of condom breakage.

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Q & A: What’s A Normal Load For An Older Man?

Cigarette smoking may be associated with lower semen volume. The length of time in between ejaculations may be associated with greater semen volume. However, these are relatively small differences. Some men notice changes to their semen volume based on sleep and even exercise,