http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:00:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgin-orgasm-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgin-orgasm-intercourse/#comments Thu, 07 May 2009 13:00:04 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/qa-ways-orgasm-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgin-orgasm-intercourse/feed/ 0 3:25 People generally think of a virgin as a woman or a man who has not intercourse, although there are different definitions for virginity that people ... People generally think of a virgin as a woman or a man who has not intercourse, although there are different definitions for virginity that people sometimes use. Regardless of your definition of virginity ndash; in other words, regardless of whatever sexual behavior you have or have not done (such as had vaginal intercourse) ndash; women and men can experience sexual pleasure and sometimes even orgasm from a variety of different types of stimulation. So yes, even though your girlfriend has not had sex, she is still likely capable of experiencing orgasm from different types of sexual stimulation, such as stimulation of her clitoris. Difficulty with Orgasm During Intercourse Letrsquo;s back up a few steps, though. First, it may be helpful for you to know that many women find it difficult to orgasm during intercourse. Itrsquo;s not uncommon for it to take months or years for a woman to learn to orgasm at all, let alone from vaginal sex. Second, women often find it easier to orgasm from direct stimulation of the glans clitoris, which is the part of the clitoris that one can see from the outside. The glans clitoris is usually about a quarter or half of an inch long and is often quite sensitive to the touch. Because itrsquo;s such a sensitive body part, not all women like to be touched directly on the clitoris ndash; or if they do, they may prefer certain types of touch over others. Don't Pressure Her As such, if you and your girlfriend talk about your ideas about sexual intimacy and decide that you want to try clitoral stimulation, keep a few things in mind. Try not to pressure her to have an orgasm, as it can take time for women to develop an orgasmic response to sexual stimulation. Try instead to think of your sexual exploration as a chance to find out what feels pleasurable and enjoyable for each of you. You might also try different types of touch ndash; gentle but first pressure on each otherrsquo;s bodies, light touches, quick touches, slow strokes, or other types of touch that you discover together. Try Oral Sex Oral sex is another possible way of stimulating womenrsquo;s or menrsquo;s genitals. Again, there is no one way to do it so exploration is often helpful. Because it is possible to pass sexually transmissible infections, or STIs, during oral sex, yoursquo;ll want to make sure that neither one of you has an STI before deciding to have oral sex. If either of you have ever had any type of oral, vaginal or anal sex with other people, then you should get tested for STIs before getting sexually involved with each other. Remember: there is no one way that sex has to happen, and you two are free to invent your sex play in a way that fits with your values, your feelings for each other, and your ideas about how you want to relate to each other sexually. Further Reading To learn more about sexuality, check out The Guide to Getting It On. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Pregnancy aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgins-having-trouble-with-vaginal-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgins-having-trouble-with-vaginal-intercourse/#comments Wed, 29 Aug 2007 21:50:28 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/08/29/qa-virgins-having-trouble-with-vaginal-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/virgins-having-trouble-with-vaginal-intercourse/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/#comments Wed, 25 Apr 2007 21:49:45 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/04/25/qa-can-masturbation-cause-physical-damage-to-the-clitoris/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/losing-erection-sexual-orientation/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/losing-erection-sexual-orientation/#comments Wed, 28 Mar 2007 21:47:21 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/03/28/qa-does-losing-my-erection-with-girls-mean-im-gay-or-bisexual/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/losing-erection-sexual-orientation/feed/ 1 http://kinseyconfidential.org/common-sex-myths-bad-first-sexual-experiences/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/common-sex-myths-bad-first-sexual-experiences/#comments Wed, 10 Jan 2007 18:34:47 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/01/10/qa-a-bad-first-sexual-experience-has-scared-me-off-sex/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/common-sex-myths-bad-first-sexual-experiences/feed/ 0