http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:00:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/why-do-men-watch-porn/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/why-do-men-watch-porn/#comments Mon, 08 Dec 2008 14:00:30 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=439 http://kinseyconfidential.org/why-do-men-watch-porn/feed/ 0 3:29 Because watching porn is a relatively common experience that many male teenagers share as they grow up together, men often grow up to see it ... Because watching porn is a relatively common experience that many male teenagers share as they grow up together, men often grow up to see it as a relatively typical, normal and healthy form of sexual expression. Not all men watch porn, of course - some have never seen it and others have seen it, but may feel guilty or shameful watching it, particularly if they have been raised with family, religious or cultural values that view masturbation or viewing sexual images as harmful, wrong or immoral. Others find porn to be funny, silly or un-arousing. Fewer Girls Than Guys Fewer girls, on the other hand, tend to have been exposed to sexual images while growing up. It is not nearly as common for women to describe many instances in which they purposely looked at sexually explicit images in magazines, videos or on the internet. In addition, many young women recall hearing negative things about porn from their mothers or from friends or older sisters. They may have heard that it was wrong for men to watch porn, or that watching porn is a sign of a bad partner, or a partner who is more likely to degrade women or to cheat on a woman. Any of these messages can make a woman feel understandably weary, distrustful or sad about growing up and finding that her boyfriend, fianceacute; or husband watched porn. Then again, some women enjoy watching porn as much as some men, so people do vary. Overcoming Difference In Gender and Experience There are many ways that couples come to term with these differences in gender and experience. Some couples look for sexual images that a woman can feel comfortable with and they may watch these together, as part of their sex play. If this interests you, look for titles by Candida Royalle, or browse a wider range of options at woman-oriented sex boutiques. Other times, a man may try to stop watching porn, though that can be difficult for some to do, especially if they feel that there is nothing wrong with it or if they feel judged, condemned or misunderstood by their partner. For many men, their watching porn is simply a part of their masturbation and a wider range of sexual activities, and not a reflection of their attraction, love or lust for their partner. And yet, if you are feeling insecure, worthless and sad because of your different feelings about porn, that can affect your relationship and your ability to feel safe, vulnerable and intimate together. Recommended Resources You may find that reading a book such as For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy can help you two to improve sexual communication and work around this issue, or else you may find that sex therapy can be helpful. You can find a sex therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Relationships,,Love aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/#comments Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:03:31 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/11/28/qa-women-and-pornography/ Subscribe to the Podcast ]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/feed/ 0