http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:00:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/viagra-sexual-side-effects-antidepressants/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/viagra-sexual-side-effects-antidepressants/#comments Wed, 23 Jul 2008 15:53:55 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/07/23/viagra-may-counteract-sexual-side-effects-of-antidepressants/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/viagra-sexual-side-effects-antidepressants/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/vagina-sensitive-after-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/vagina-sensitive-after-orgasm/#comments Thu, 22 May 2008 13:00:43 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/05/22/qa-my-girlfriends-vagina-becomes-sensitive-after-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/vagina-sensitive-after-orgasm/feed/ 0 2:57 Although not all women become very sensitive after orgasm, some do. Some women find that their clitoris becomes extremely sensitive following orgasm, or else their ... Although not all women become very sensitive after orgasm, some do. Some women find that their clitoris becomes extremely sensitive following orgasm, or else their vagina or other parts of their vulva may become sensitive. Sexual excitement and orgasm are full of different bodily changes and these sensations can change from the excitement phase to the orgasm and post-orgasm phase. Talk To Your Girlfriend If your girlfriend finds that she is very sensitive, perhaps you two can talk and find different ways of having sex that you both find enjoyable. Perhaps sometimes you can have sex the way that you often do now, and if she is too sensitive to go on, you can stop with intercourse and continue on to something else. Other times you might try other means of pleasure. Perhaps sometimes you could have an orgasm first and then perform oral sex on her, or stimulate her with your fingers or in other ways that feel good to her. Alternatively, she could have an orgasm through intercourse, you could move on to kissing and cuddling and other forms of sex play for several minutes, and then try intercourse again after a longer period of time. You may even try adding lubricant prior to entering her again. Thatrsquo;s because when a woman is very aroused, her lubrication often continues to build. But after orgasm, many women do not continue to produce much lubrication, if any at all. Adding some store-bought lubricant may help to make sex more comfortable and pleasurable for her. Not Necessarily A Cause For Concern Again, though not all women share this experience, some do, and so in and of itself it is not necessarily a reason to think that something may be wrong. However, if you or your girlfriend would like to ask a healthcare provider about this, we would strongly encourage you to do so ndash; especially because it is related to pain and discomfort for her, and it may feel reassuring or be important for her to mention this to her healthcare provider. Bodies,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/non-lubricated-condoms-vaginal-bleeding/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/non-lubricated-condoms-vaginal-bleeding/#comments Thu, 24 Apr 2008 14:00:43 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/04/24/qa-non-lubricated-condoms-and-bleeding/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/non-lubricated-condoms-vaginal-bleeding/feed/ 0 3:44 Although the vagina can withstand quite a lot when it comes to sex, it remains a very sensitive part of womenrsquo;s bodies. The vagina can ... Although the vagina can withstand quite a lot when it comes to sex, it remains a very sensitive part of womenrsquo;s bodies. The vagina can easily tear during sex, especially when the sex is full of friction as can occur during sex that is not well lubricated. Most Cuts Are Small The good news is that most vaginal cuts and tears are small, and women may only notice very light vaginal bleeding such as when they go to the bathroom, like you noticed. In cases of light cuts and light bleeding, the vagina tends to heal on its own in most cases, and often fairly quickly, such as within a day or two. It is likely to heal more quickly if you donrsquo;t further aggravate it, such as with more intercourse or even finger penetration, while it heals. If Bleeding Is Heavier Now, if you feel like the bleeding is moderate or heavy, please consider checking in with a healthcare provider, such as your gynecologist. You might also take out a mirror and look at your vaginal entrance or the parts of your vulva to see if there are any visible tears. Some women even ask their partner to look for them, as it can be difficult to see clearly when it is your own body. If you see visible cuts, you might call your healthcare provider to ask for advice. They may suggest that you come in for a visit or, if it seems more mild to them, they may suggest some at-home or over-the-counter treatment. Reducing Future Risk Herersquo;s how to reduce your risk of tearing in the future: Condoms that are not lubricated may feel particularly uncomfortable for many women, as it adds to the friction of intercourse. To make sex more comfortable, add some store-bought lubricant of your own to the outside of the condom ndash; once it is already on the penis ndash; or to your own vaginal entrance. You can also increase your own natural vaginal lubrication by spending more time in foreplay, doing things that feel sexually exciting and pleasant to you, however, you may still find that sex feels better with a little store-bought lubricant and thatrsquo;s okay too. Talking About Painful Sex Finally, I want to commend both you and your boyfriend for the way that you handled having painful sex. Not all women feel comfortable telling their partner that sex hurts, or asking them to stop. Also, not all men are respectful of their partnerrsquo;s choices to stop sex, nor are all couples often careful enough to use condoms when they want to reduce their risk of pregnancy or infection. You two have made choices that contribute to the strength of your relationship, and thatrsquo;s important. Bodies,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/vaginal-tearing-healing-time/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/vaginal-tearing-healing-time/#comments Mon, 24 Mar 2008 13:32:48 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/03/24/qa-vaginal-tearing/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/vaginal-tearing-healing-time/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/sex-readiness-penis-vagina-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sex-readiness-penis-vagina-intercourse/#comments Wed, 16 Jan 2008 20:20:27 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/01/16/qa-were-having-trouble-with-penis-vagina-intercourse/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sex-readiness-penis-vagina-intercourse/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/painful-sex/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/painful-sex/#comments Wed, 03 Oct 2007 18:16:14 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/10/03/qa-sex-is-painful-for-my-girlfriend/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/painful-sex/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/performance-anxiety-psyching-myself-out-erection/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/performance-anxiety-psyching-myself-out-erection/#comments Mon, 17 Sep 2007 20:31:55 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/09/17/qa-am-i-psyching-myself-out-of-my-erection/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/performance-anxiety-psyching-myself-out-erection/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/#comments Wed, 14 Mar 2007 20:45:33 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/03/14/qa-i-used-to-orgasm-easily-but-now-im-just-numb/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/large-penis-pleasurable-sex/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/large-penis-pleasurable-sex/#comments Thu, 26 Oct 2006 19:42:15 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2006/10/26/qa-he-is-too-big-for-me-what-can-i-do-to-make-sex-better/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/large-penis-pleasurable-sex/feed/ 1