http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:00:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/book-explains-women-sexsort/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/book-explains-women-sexsort/#comments Tue, 20 Oct 2009 06:07:45 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/?p=1225 http://kinseyconfidential.org/book-explains-women-sexsort/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/womantowoman-talk/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/womantowoman-talk/#comments Mon, 12 Oct 2009 17:30:06 +0000 Marie Metelnick (M.A.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/?p=1249 http://kinseyconfidential.org/womantowoman-talk/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/jessica-valenti-feministing-indiana-university/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/jessica-valenti-feministing-indiana-university/#comments Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:28:40 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=940 How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women, in honor of Women's History Month.]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/jessica-valenti-feministing-indiana-university/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-genital-shape/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-genital-shape/#comments Mon, 09 Mar 2009 14:00:52 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=876 http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-genital-shape/feed/ 0 2:39 Many women have questions about their size and shape of their genital parts ndash; and quite a few women have wondered, like you, if their ... Many women have questions about their size and shape of their genital parts ndash; and quite a few women have wondered, like you, if their masturbation has played a part. Author, educator and activist Betty Dodson describes such thinking in her book about female masturbation titled Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving. All Shapes And Sizes Itrsquo;s important to know that womenrsquo;s genitals do, in fact, come in all sorts of shapes and sizes ndash; especially a womanrsquo;s inner vaginal lips, which are also called the labia minora. The labia minora may be very tiny, such as a centimeter or less long, or they may hang down several inches, even hanging out past a womanrsquo;s outer vaginal lips, which are also called the labia majora. Most womenrsquo;s labia minora are somewhere in between but none of these lengths are any better or worse than the others. Not Affected By Sex Or Masturbation There is no ldquo;standardrdquo; size of shape to womenrsquo;s labia and neither masturbation nor partner sex are what shape a womanrsquo;s genital parts; rather, itrsquo;s her genetics and health that play the biggest role. It is common for women to use their hands to stimulate their vagina (which is the inside part of a womanrsquo;s genitals, also called the birth canal) or their vulva (which is a word that refers to the outside parts such as the clitoris, labia minora and labia majora). Masturbation is not known to cause any physical or mental health problems. In fact, masturbation is largely considered a safe and often very pleasurable activity for both women and men. Recommended Reading To learn more about female self-pleasuring, you might also check out the book For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality. To learn more about the variations of womenrsquo;s genitals, you might find it interesting to read The V Book: A Doctorrsquo;s Guide to Complete Vulvovaginal Health. Bodies,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-ny-times/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-ny-times/#comments Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:57:16 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=888 http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-ny-times/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/persistent-sexual-arousal-syndrome/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/persistent-sexual-arousal-syndrome/#comments Tue, 02 Sep 2008 10:26:10 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/09/02/200-orgasms-per-day/ three and a half minutes. Can you imagine??]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/persistent-sexual-arousal-syndrome/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-rejection-eating-disorders/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-rejection-eating-disorders/#comments Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:48:38 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/07/31/qa-sexual-rejection-and-eating-disorders/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-rejection-eating-disorders/feed/ 0 3:13 Irsquo;m sorry to hear how hurt yoursquo;ve been feeling. Sexual rejection can feel sad, confusing and lonely. Many women and men notice ties between their sexual ... Irsquo;m sorry to hear how hurt yoursquo;ve been feeling. Sexual rejection can feel sad, confusing and lonely. Many women and men notice ties between their sexual experiences and their experiences of accepting love, affection or nourishment (even in the form of food). Sometimes these are very positive connections like being open to trying new things in love, life or at a restaurant, and other times the connections feel troubling. Finding Support and Guidance To deal with these troubling aspects, some people find the support and guidance they need through counseling; others work through their feelings through self-reflection, journaling, reading or talking with trusted friends or family members. Scientifically speaking, we donrsquo;t know how many or how often people transfer their feelings about sexual or romantic intimacy to behaviors related to food or eating. Recommended Reading However, if you are interested in exploring related ideas, you might be interested in reading "The Good Body" by Eve Ensler as it explores issues related to women's relationships with their bodies. The book and movie "Like Water for Chocolate" is another interesting artistic expression of the ways in which people deal with food, love and sexuality. You absolutely do deserve to find pleasure and enjoyment in your eating and sexual experiences, and it's a good start to know and feel in your heart that you deserve these things. Because you believe in the pursuit of sexual pleasure, you might also enjoy reading "Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving" by Betty Dodson, or "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by Lonnie Barbach. Neither book is about food issues, but both are known for their positive perspective on women's sexuality and the way that they acknowledge womenrsquo;s experiences of pleasure with other emotional areas of their lives. Bodies,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/possible-to-delay-female-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/possible-to-delay-female-orgasm/#comments Thu, 03 Jul 2008 15:58:19 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/07/03/qa-is-it-possible-to-delay-female-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/possible-to-delay-female-orgasm/feed/ 0 3:16 Men, far more often than women, find that they orgasm more quickly than they would like; as a result, we have more research and anecdotes ... Men, far more often than women, find that they orgasm more quickly than they would like; as a result, we have more research and anecdotes related to techniques and medications that work to help men delay their ejaculation, and little science-based information about effective techniques for helping women to delay their experience of orgasm. Anti-Depressants of Other Medications Although some medications (such as certain anti-depressants) are occasionally prescribed for men to delay their ejaculation they are not really considered a "first line" treatment for men as, often, couples would like to find non-medical means of improving their sexuality (and anti-depressants, like most medications, can cause negative side effects). It is unclear if women would be helped by using anti-depressants or other medications in this way, though a common side effect of antidepressants (especially those impacting the serotonin neurotransmitters), is delayed orgasm. Explore Other Sexual Behaviors If your girlfriend wants to be sexual for some time without having an orgasm, you two might consider exploring a range of sexual behaviors that typically don't make her orgasm quickly. For example, you might spend more time kissing, touching her breasts or performing oral sex on her, having her perform it on you, or doing it mutually in ways that are enjoyable but are perhaps not likely to cause her to orgasm right away. Talk About Your Experiences Do consider talking to your girlfriend about your sexual experiences together. Is an early orgasm a problem for her? What bothers her about having an orgasm soon after beginning sex? Does she become too sensitive to continue with sex, does she feel too tired to go on, does it hurt or does she get a headache after she has an orgasm? If you two can talk more about this and find out what it is that troubles her (if anything), then perhaps you can work around it. On the other hand, if it is you that is troubled by her early orgasm, then that too is something to pay attention to. Why does her orgasm speed bother you? Does is have to? Perhaps you can learn to appreciate the responsiveness of your girlfriend's body and to explore each other's bodies in ways that are about pleasure, and not just timing of orgasm. You may find that you like and enjoy her sexual response, and you two may come to enjoy exploring a wider range of ways of being sexual together. Content,Type,,Pleasure,,Orgasm,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/anti-depressants-sexual-side-effects-ability-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/anti-depressants-sexual-side-effects-ability-orgasm/#comments Thu, 08 May 2008 14:00:54 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/05/08/qa-anti-depressants-and-the-ability-to-reach-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/anti-depressants-sexual-side-effects-ability-orgasm/feed/ 0 2:51 Yes, some medications do have what we call sexual side effects. They are particularly common among some, but not all, anti-depressants although other medications such ... Yes, some medications do have what we call sexual side effects. They are particularly common among some, but not all, anti-depressants although other medications such as certain medications for high blood pressure, pain relief and allergies may have sexual side effects too. Ability To Orgasm These side effects may affect a man or womanrsquo;s ability to have an orgasm, ease of having an orgasm, desire, arousal or ejaculation. That said, not every drug affects everyone in the same way, and some antidepressants have fewer or different side effects than others. It is important to talk with your healthcare provider about any concerns you may have. In addition, patients are generally advised not to stop taking a medication without first consulting with their healthcare provider. Anxiety And Depression Also Factors Bear in mind, though, that medication is not always the culprit when it comes to sex. In fact, the problems the drugs are prescribed for, such as anxiety or depression, can also put a damper on sexual interest or function. Manufacturers of various drugs now list possible sexual side effects in instructions and ads ndash; a big change from years past. Sexual Side Effects, Dosage and Alternative Therapies Nonetheless, have a conversation with your healthcare provider about your concerns. Ask if the drug is known to have sexual side effects. You may not want to reject a recommended prescription until yoursquo;ve tried it. It may not affect your libido or orgasms at all, and may give you emotional relief to enjoy your relationship and sexual interactions. Also, you might ask if the dosage can be adjusted or how much time to give yourself to test the benefits and the side effects. If you are already in treatment and are experiencing loss of sexual function or pleasure, discuss alternative therapies or ways to compensate for the effects. Sometimes couples find that they can adjust their foreplay, or sexual sharing, in ways that work for them. Adapt a ldquo;proactiverdquo; stance in working with your healthcare provider - and your partner, if you have one - to find a path most conducive to your health, sexual functioning, and well-being. Content,Type,,Pleasure,,Orgasm,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/low-sexual-desire-get-interested-in-sex-again/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/low-sexual-desire-get-interested-in-sex-again/#comments Wed, 09 Jan 2008 20:29:34 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/01/09/qa-how-do-i-get-interested-in-sex-again/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/low-sexual-desire-get-interested-in-sex-again/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/#comments Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:03:31 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/11/28/qa-women-and-pornography/ Subscribe to the Podcast ]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-women-and-pornography/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/#comments Wed, 25 Apr 2007 21:49:45 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/04/25/qa-can-masturbation-cause-physical-damage-to-the-clitoris/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/masturbation-cause-physical-damage-clitoris/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/#comments Wed, 14 Mar 2007 20:45:33 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/03/14/qa-i-used-to-orgasm-easily-but-now-im-just-numb/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/ease-of-female-orgasm-vaginal-sensitivity/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/female-ejaculation-peeing/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/female-ejaculation-peeing/#comments Wed, 31 Jan 2007 19:10:48 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/01/31/qa-female-ejaculatin-and-peeing/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/female-ejaculation-peeing/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-how-can-i-have-an-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-how-can-i-have-an-orgasm/#comments Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:55:29 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2006/09/27/qa-how-can-i-have-an-orgasm/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/qa-how-can-i-have-an-orgasm/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/confused-about-same-sex-attraction/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/confused-about-same-sex-attraction/#comments Wed, 01 Dec 2004 20:36:21 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2004/12/01/qa-confused-about-same-sex-attraction/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/confused-about-same-sex-attraction/feed/ 0