http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 16 Mar 2010 17:20:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-pill-men/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-pill-men/#comments Mon, 20 Apr 2009 13:21:04 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=966 http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-pill-men/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/correct-condom-use-video/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/correct-condom-use-video/#comments Sat, 13 Dec 2008 21:00:36 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=738 http://kinseyconfidential.org/correct-condom-use-video/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/pregnancy-risk-using-condoms-not-ejaculating/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/pregnancy-risk-using-condoms-not-ejaculating/#comments Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:00:52 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/09/22/qa-is-it-possible-to-get-pregnant-even-when-using-contraception-and-if-my-partner-doesnt-ejaculate/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/pregnancy-risk-using-condoms-not-ejaculating/feed/ 0 3:09 If you didn't get any sperm inside your girlfriendrsquo;s vagina, or any pre-ejaculate (also called "pre-cum" - the thin liquid that comes out of some ... If you didn't get any sperm inside your girlfriendrsquo;s vagina, or any pre-ejaculate (also called "pre-cum" - the thin liquid that comes out of some men's penises while they are feeling aroused), then she could not become pregnant from you. Take A Pregnancy Test It is more likely that your girlfriend is still just feeling anxious or worried about becoming pregnant when she is not ready to become pregnant. If she is concerned that she might be pregnant, she should get an at-home pregnancy test when an adequate amount of time has passed (check each box to see how soon a particular test can be used) or check in with her healthcare provider for a pregnancy test. Talk To Your Partner If you or your girlfriend are anxious about sex for these or other reasons, it may be that you are not ready to be having sex right now, as the anxiety may make sex feel more stressful than pleasurable. Perhaps this is a good time to talk more with each other about your decision to be sexual together and how yoursquo;re feeling about it, as well as how you would feel is you became pregnant together, or what steps you could take to feel more comfortable about your romantic and sexual relationship. Or it may be an indication that you need to do other things - like talk more about how you plan to prevent pregnancy - such as correct and consistent condom use and maybe hormonal contraception, such as the birth control pill, patch, shot or ring - so that you can both feel more at ease. In that case, talking with a healthcare provider and learning more about your options for birth control will likely be very helpful - you can learn more at Planned Parenthood's Website as they have a comprehensive birth control section. Experience Takes Time If your girlfriend has not yet had a gynecological exam, she should do so, as this is important for all women who are sexually active. If you feel comfortable talking to your parents or other older family members such as aunts or uncles, they might also serve as good resources for information and to talk about any feelings you might be having about these changes to your relationship. Becoming sexually experienced is something that doesnrsquo;t happen over night, and certainly doesnrsquo;t happen the very first time that you have sex. It takes time and it can be helpful to have trusted people to talk to, not only for information but also for support. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Pregnancy aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-sexual-health-resources/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-sexual-health-resources/#comments Fri, 19 Sep 2008 00:16:19 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/09/18/qa-new-to-sex-where-can-i-learn-about-birth-control-and-sexuality/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/birth-control-sexual-health-resources/feed/ 0 2:47 Great question! I think it is really wise that you two are communicating so carefully about sex before having it, and that you are both ... Great question! I think it is really wise that you two are communicating so carefully about sex before having it, and that you are both focused on feeling comfortable so that you can enjoy your experience together. Your Healthcare Provider The best place to go for information related to birth control options is your healthcare provider as he or she make recommendations based not only on your preferences for birth control but also on any personal health issues. If you are a college student, your campus health clinic will likely have a womenrsquo;s health or gynecology clinic and you may be able to start there, if you donrsquo;t already have a healthcare provider. Planned Parenthoodrsquo;s web site can also be used to find a healthcare provider in your area. Planned Parenthood Ahead of time, you can learn basic information about contraceptive options on the Planned Parenthood web site. They have comprehensive information available related to various types of birth control such as the male condom, female condom, natural family planning, birth control pills, the birth control ring, the shot, and more. You can also learn some of this information elsewhere on our web site (especially in our sexual health resource pages), as well as detailed information about many sexuality issues relating to communication, making sex comfortable, negotiating condom use, dealing with differences in desire and more. Recommended Reading In addition, the book Our Bodies, Ourselves by the Boston Womenrsquo;s Health Book Collection provides a comprehensive overview of sexual health issues and is worth reading for both women and men. The Guide to Getting It On also provides some information on a range of sexuality topics for both sexes, and regardless of experience level. Contact Us If you have further or more specific questions, please don't hesitate to contact us. Birth,Control,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/erection-loss-reluctance-to-use-condoms/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/erection-loss-reluctance-to-use-condoms/#comments Mon, 05 May 2008 20:14:09 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/05/05/reluctance-to-use-condoms/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/erection-loss-reluctance-to-use-condoms/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/one-size-doesnt-fit-all/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/one-size-doesnt-fit-all/#comments Tue, 11 Sep 2007 20:49:14 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/09/11/one-size-doesnt-fit-all/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/one-size-doesnt-fit-all/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/condoms-erections-physical-appearance/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/condoms-erections-physical-appearance/#comments Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:36:27 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2008/01/18/qa-condoms-erections-and-my-partners-physical-appearance/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/condoms-erections-physical-appearance/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/condom-use-pregnancy-risk/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/condom-use-pregnancy-risk/#comments Wed, 29 Nov 2006 18:11:21 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2006/11/29/qa-can-you-get-pregnant-even-if-youre-using-a-condom-during-sex/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/condom-use-pregnancy-risk/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/chlamydia-bikini-wax-risk-transmission/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/chlamydia-bikini-wax-risk-transmission/#comments Wed, 04 Oct 2006 19:49:26 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2006/10/04/qa-can-you-get-chlamydia-from-a-bikini-wax/ Subscribe to the Podcast ]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/chlamydia-bikini-wax-risk-transmission/feed/ 0 3:16 Chlamydia is a bacterial infection and it is only transmitted sexually, so it is not possible to have gotten an infection from a bikini wax ... Chlamydia is a bacterial infection and it is only transmitted sexually, so it is not possible to have gotten an infection from a bikini wax (or a toilet seat, towel, or other rumored means). It is transmitted between sexual partners through vaginal, oral or anal sex and can be cured with certain antibiotics. Risk With Proper Condom Use: Very Low You mentioned that you had protected sex with three different partners between your two exams. Presumably, by "protected sex" you mean that you and your partner used a condom during sexual intercourse. Assuming that you used a condom correctly and every time that you had intercourse, your risk of getting chlamydia would be very low unless the condom broke or slipped off. Unfortunately, condoms are often used incorrectly -- and that doesn't just mean mistakes with opening packages or turning the condom inside out. More specifically, many people wait a while before putting a condom on a guy's penis and, in the mean time, engage in all sorts of genital rubbing and "slip-ins" which can transmit infections such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, HPV or even HIV, particularly as sexual fluids such as pre-ejaculate and vaginal fluids may mix. This is NOT "protected" sex. Also, because chlamydia can be transmitted during oral sex, if you received oral sex from any of these three partners, they could have transmitted the infection to you in that way. Partners Telling The Truth? That said, a confusing part seems to be that your partners all stated that they do not have chlamydia. They may be telling the truth, or lying, and you may never know. Here are some possible scenarios: If you received oral sex from another partner (but did not have intercourse with the partner), it may be that partner who gave you chlamydia. It is also possible that one of your three partners used to have chlamydia, but no longer does, possibly because he or she has since been treated for something else (such as a cold) that was treated with the same specific type of antibiotic with which Chlamydia would be treated. Further, it is possible that one of your partners is lying. While lying is always a sad state of affairs (particularly by someone you made yourself physically and emotionally vulnerable to within the context of a sexual relationship), it occurs all too often in the context of sexually transmitted infections (STI). For example, one study found that only about half of some individuals who were infected with the human papillomavirus (HPV, which can cause genital warts or cervical problems) felt it was important to tell their sexual partners about having HPV. In another study, about one fourth of HIV positive individuals did not tell their sexual partner they had HIV. In general, people are more likely -- but not guaranteed - to be honest with their partners if they are in a committed relationship, if they feel that being honest is the right thing to do, if they care about their partner, or if they feel that their partner needs to get treated. Unfortunately, even caring or committed partners sometimes lie in order to protect (in their eyes) the relationship and/or their own pride or self-image. Good for you for being honest and contacting your previous partners. Partner Notification For those who feel they cannot tell past or current partners directly, one can ask a healthcare provider for help with "partner notification", whereby they will call or email your past or present partner to let them know (confidentially) that they have been named as a partner of someone who has tested positive for an infection.This is a confidential process and your identity will not be disclosed. Some STIs end up being mild nuisances that are easily cured; others are life-changing, cause bothersome symptoms or fertility problems, or are life-threatening. This is why it is always important to communicate with partners about infection and testing issues, even when you cannot necessarily Content,Type,,Health,,Disease,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No