http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:00:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 2006-2007 aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) aschweig@indiana.edu (Kinsey Confidential) posts 1440 Just another WordPress weblog Kinsey Confidential Kinsey Confidential aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/late-abstinence/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/late-abstinence/#comments Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:00:19 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/qa-late-abstinence/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/late-abstinence/feed/ 0 2:43 Just as people have different definitions of what it means to ldquo;have sexrdquo; ndash; in other words, whether ldquo;sexrdquo; is defined as oral, vaginal or ... Just as people have different definitions of what it means to ldquo;have sexrdquo; ndash; in other words, whether ldquo;sexrdquo; is defined as oral, vaginal or anal sex, there are also varied definitions of abstinence. That said, a common understanding of abstinence suggests that one can absolutely be abstinent even if they have had sex in the past. How is this so? Well, technically the word ldquo;abstinencerdquo; comes from the word ldquo;abstainrdquo; which means to refrain or hold oneself back from something. Different Definitions For Different People Sometimes people say that they plan to abstain from sex until they fall in love, become engaged or get married ndash; or that they want to abstain from sex for other reasons, such as until they graduate high school or meet the right person. People who are making conscious choices to abstain from sex may have had oral, vaginal or anal sex in the past, or they may not have had any of these types of sex. If you have already had sex, you can still choose to abstain from whatever types of sex you want to abstain from and for however long you wish to abstain from them. It is never too late to choose to refrain from sexual activities that you donrsquo;t feel comfortable, ready or interested in being involved in. You can still date or have meaningful romantic relationships if you would like to, and you can still engage in the types of physical intimacy that feel right to you. Keep in mind, though, that sexually transmissible infections (or STIs) can be passed through oral sex, vaginal sex and anal sex whether or not you consider these types of sex to be ldquo;sexrdquo;. Communicate Your Choices Also, if you worry that someone will try to pressure you into having sex, talk to a parent, friend or trusted adult for ideas about how you can best communicate your choices to someone yoursquo;re hanging out with or dating. Some people find that talking to others about their choice to be abstinence early in a relationship is helpful so that the person they are interested in knows what they should or shouldnrsquo;t expect from them in terms of sex. Recommended Reading To learn more about abstinence, virginity and sexual choices, check out S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-to-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College by Heather Corinna. Common,Problems,,Content,Type,,Podcast aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/abstinence-pledges-ineffective/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/abstinence-pledges-ineffective/#comments Mon, 05 Jan 2009 11:38:03 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=765 Pediatrics found that teenagers who made pledges to remain abstinent until marriage were just as likely to have non-marital sex, but less likely to use condoms or other forms of birth control once they did start having sex.]]> http://kinseyconfidential.org/abstinence-pledges-ineffective/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/h-bomb-harvard-sex-discourse-college-campuses/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/h-bomb-harvard-sex-discourse-college-campuses/#comments Thu, 07 Aug 2008 14:19:00 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/08/07/sex-discourse-on-college-campuses/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/h-bomb-harvard-sex-discourse-college-campuses/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/study-finds-abstinence-only-sex-ed-not-effective/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/study-finds-abstinence-only-sex-ed-not-effective/#comments Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:43:21 +0000 Kinsey Confidential http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/blog/2007/08/17/study-finds-abstinence-only-sex-ed-not-effective/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/study-finds-abstinence-only-sex-ed-not-effective/feed/ 0