Q&A: If I Stop Masturbating, Will My Premature Ejaculations Stop?

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QUESTION: I’ve been masturbating before I go to sleep for the last 3 years. Now when I masturbate, my ejaculations happen much faster, and I can’t control them. Lately, even when I’m just dancing with a girl, I ejaculate! If I stop masturbating, will these premature ejaculations stop?

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By practicing very specific masturbation techniques, you may be able to get more in touch with your body so that you can stop yourself from ejaculating before you’re ready.

Yours is a wonderful question and by asking it, we will hopefully be able to help many men who have questions about premature ejaculation and learning to control the timing of ejaculation.

Everyone Does It

Masturbation is an extremely common sexual activity – most men and women have masturbated. This is particularly true for young men and women, for whom masturbation is quite common and an excellent choice for safer sex and for learning about one’s own body.

Speaking of which, masturbation can actually help men learn to control the timing of their ejaculation. In other words, by practicing very specific masturbation techniques, you may be able to get more in touch with your body so that you can stop yourself from ejaculating before you’re ready. It will likely take time and a good deal of practice, but this type of practice can be quite pleasurable!

Masturbation Techniques

Two techniques that are commonly used by men who would like to develop ejaculatory control are the stop-start technique and the squeeze technique.

Here is how they work: Start by stimulating your body in the way that you usually do. As you build arousal, pay attention to your bodily sensations. Just before the point of no return – when you will ejaculate no matter what happens – stop all stimulation and let your arousal subside a little. Then start the stimulation again and repeat the cycle. This is the stop-start technique.

The squeeze technique is similar except instead of stopping all stimulation, one can gently squeeze the head of one’s penis and then let the arousal subside.

Learn More

More detailed instructions about these and other techniques for learning ejaculatory control are described in The New Male Sexuality.

Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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