Q&A: Sexual Fantasy About Group Masturbation

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QUESTION: I have this fantasy to be part of a coed masturbation group - is this healthy? Sometimes I feel like this is a weird fantasy but then I think that masturbation is a safe healthy form of sexual expression, so maybe other adults would be interested in forming such a group. Does such a thing exist or have you ever heard of anything like this?

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Actually, such a thing does exist. You’re certainly not the first – nor will you be the last – woman or man who is interested in masturbating around other people.

Like you, some people want to be sexual around others but don’t want to put themselves at risk for pregnancy or infection. Others simply don’t want to touch or be touched by strangers or people they are not in a relationship with, but do feel excited or aroused by the idea of group masturbation.

Masturbation Clubs and Events

You can locate masturbation clubs in many cities by searching on the internet using terms such as “masturbation clubs”. Another common term is “jack and jill-off parties”, which, as you might guess, is based on slang terms for male and female masturbation.

One of the most widely publicized masturbation events is called the Masturbate-a-thon which has been held in San Francisco since 1998 in conjunction with Good Vibrations, a historically women-run sex toy store in San Francisco, and the Center for Sex and Culture.

However, it is only since the year 2000 that the Masturbate-a-thon has become an event that is organized around people getting together and masturbating; before, it was something that people did at home. As part of the event, participants collect pledges related to their masturbation and raise money for various charitable causes.

Although most people would perhaps not be comfortable masturbating in front of groups of people they don’t know, or don’t know very well, some find it very appealing – either in an erotic way, or as a means of becoming comfortable with their sexuality.

Most people have masturbated at some point in their lives, and usually it is done privately or with a person’s sexual or relationship partner. It’s worth noting, too, that fantasies can be used to enhance arousal, or to make orgasm easier, and sometimes people enjoy fantasies that they don’t necessarily want to turn into a reality.

Learn More About Masturbation

To learn more about masturbation, check out The Big Book of Masturbation by Martha Cornog.

Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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