Q&A: Is It Normal To Masturbate Two To Three Times Per Day?

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QUESTION: I masturbate 2-3 times a day. My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship so my libido seems quite high. Is it normal to masturbate so often?

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Masturbating two to three times a day is certainly within the typical range of frequencies that are reported by young men.

There is no one frequency of sex or masturbation that’s considered normal and masturbating two to three times a day is certainly within the typical range of frequencies that are reported by young men who are about your age.

Many Reasons to Masturbate

People tend to masturbate more often when they are feeling highly aroused or sexually excited, whether or not they have a partner or are in a relationship.

In your case, you are in a relationship with a woman but she’s not physically near you. Perhaps you talk to her on the phone, text each other or just think about her and feel sexually aroused. And then maybe at times you decide to masturbate to release any sexual tension you may have, because it feels pleasurable, because you enjoy fantasizing about your girlfriend, or to help yourself fall asleep.

There are many different reasons why men and women masturbate.

Some couples even masturbate together. In long distance relationships, some couples enjoy participating in phone sex in which they talk about their sexual fantasies or what they wish they could do together.

Other times, couples tell each other about how they may have masturbated earlier in the day or the previous night thinking about their partner.

There’s Nothing Harmful About Masturbation

Fortunately, masturbation is not bad for a person’s health. Masturbation can help people to feel calm or relaxed and it can also just be a lot of fun, whether it’s done alone or with a partner.

Additional Resources

To learn more about masturbation, check out The Big Book of Masturbation. To learn more about solo masturbation, partnered masturbation or different types of sex play with a partner, check out The Guide to Getting It On.

Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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  • smallestpiffy

    I have a question, Is it normal for a person in a serious relationship to masterbate and fantasize about having sex with other random woman outside of the relationship? Especially is the person is getting regular sex from thier partner and still does this at least once or twice a day. Could this be a sign of a sexual disorder? Is this considered cheating?