Q&A: Could Condoms Help Delay My Ejaculation During Sex?

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QUESTION: Are the substances used in condoms which delay or prolong sex safe to use? If not, are there any other options to delay the ejaculation during the intercourse?

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Last Longer With Condoms

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These types of condoms are often not a useful long term strategy. Masturbation exercises may be more helpful for men to learn to control the timing of their ejaculate over the long run.

Condoms to Elongate Intercourse

Condoms that are marketed to help men last longer often contain a gel or a cream inside the condom that has benzocaine as an active ingredient.

Benzocaine works by slightly numbing or desensitizing the skin on a man’s penis. By reducing sensation during sex, condoms with benzocaine may help men to last longer by several minutes. For men who come more quickly than they or their partner would like, this can be very appealing.

Health Warnings

Most men are able to use condoms that contain benzocaine without experiencing any negative side effects. However, some men may be sensitive or allergic to benzocaine or to other ingredients used in the cream or gel that’s inside the condom. In fact, some case reports describe men who have experienced redness, inflammation or other irritation – sometimes quite severe – to their penis.

Unfortunately, sensitive or allergic reactions may last a few days or even as long as a week or two. If a man continues to expose himself to something he is sensitive or allergic to, perhaps because he doesn’t realize what is causing the problem, he may make the problem even worse.

If you or your partner use these types of condoms and notice redness, irritation, itching, inflammation or swelling after using them, then stop using them and ask your healthcare provider about it. If you try these types of condoms and find that you do not experience any negative reactions – again, most men do not – then they may be part of a useful short term strategy to help you last longer during sex.

Long Term Solutions

Of course, these types of condoms are often not a useful long term strategy. Masturbation exercises such as the stop-start and squeeze technique may be more helpful for men to learn to control the timing of their ejaculate over the long run.

In addition, some men are helped by visualization exercises, by learning to relax during sex or to focus on their own physical sensations during sex. Others find that with time and experience, they learn how to last longer all on their own.

Less commonly, some men find that certain prescription medications – specifically, some SSRI antidepressants – may help them to last longer. Men who are interested in medication options should ask their healthcare provider for more information.

More Information

To learn more about how to last longer during sex, check out The New Male Sexuality or Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner and Have Great Sex.

Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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Comments

  • mediaswing

    Condoms are a must…..There are soo many types out that I am sure you can find one that works for your situation.