http://kinseyconfidential.org Just another WordPress weblog Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:59:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 en hourly 1 © aschweig@indiana.edu () aschweig@indiana.edu() 1440 Just another WordPress weblog aschweig@indiana.edu No no http://kinseyconfidential.org/wp-content/themes/kinsey/images/kinsey-podcast-300.jpg http://kinseyconfidential.org 144 144 http://kinseyconfidential.org/international-transgender-day-rememberence/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/international-transgender-day-rememberence/#comments Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:49:57 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/?p=1304 http://kinseyconfidential.org/international-transgender-day-rememberence/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/sociological-imagination-introducing-eric-anthony-grollman/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sociological-imagination-introducing-eric-anthony-grollman/#comments Tue, 03 Nov 2009 11:02:09 +0000 Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/sociological-imagination-introducing-eric-anthony-grollman/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sociological-imagination-introducing-eric-anthony-grollman/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-masturbate-lesbian/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-masturbate-lesbian/#comments Mon, 02 Nov 2009 14:00:41 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/?p=1255 http://kinseyconfidential.org/women-masturbate-lesbian/feed/ 0 3:16 Determining Sexual Orientation Great question! Although many people wonder if there is an easy way to know if a person is gay, straight, bisexual or some ... Determining Sexual Orientation Great question! Although many people wonder if there is an easy way to know if a person is gay, straight, bisexual or some other sexual orientation, the fact is that there is not. Many scientists consider a personrsquo;s sexual orientation to reflect a larger pattern of their romantic and sexual attractions such that women who identify as straight tend, for the most part, to be romantically and sexually attracted to men whereas women who identify as lesbian tend to be romantically and sexually attracted to women. Experiences, Thoughts, and Labels Don't Always Match Up Of course, few things in life are cut and dry and neither is sexual orientation. Some women who identify as heterosexual have explored sexually with other women. They may have kissed other women or engaged in oral sex, breast touching or genital touching with other women. Then again, some women who identify as heterosexual have never engaged in sexual activity with women in waking life, but they may have had pleasurable, satisfying sex dreams about women. Or, like you, they may find that their preferred fantasies during masturbation involve women. The fact that you get turned on thinking of other girls doesnrsquo;t minimize the fact that you also get turned on by your boyfriend. By the same token, many lesbian women have had some type of sexual contact with men. Some lesbian identified women may include men in their sexual fantasies or may have also had enjoyable sex dreams involving men. Just because a lesbian woman enjoys thinking about men or masturbating to images of men ndash; or images of men and women having sex together ndash; does not mean that her true orientation is heterosexual. Research About Sexual Attraction Pioneering sexuality researcher Dr. Alfred Kinsey suggested that sexuality was a rather fluid concept. He found that people sometimes experienced different sexual attractions at different points in their lives and that a personrsquo;s sexual behaviors, dreams and fantasies could vary. He also felt that, based on his research, more people would be attracted to both men and women if only society didnrsquo;t suppress these attractions. Labels Can Change Throughout Life Whether you identify as heterosexual, lesbian or bisexual is up to you. You may find that one label suits you well now and, later in life, you may find that a different sexual orientation label better reflects your feelings and attractions. However you decide to label yourself, try to let go of any stress or anxiety about how you ldquo;shouldrdquo; or ldquo;shouldnrsquo;trdquo; feel sexually. What you find arousing and exciting during your partnered sex play as well as during your masturbation fantasies is likely to keep evolving with time. By keeping an open and accepting mind toward your own experience, you can continue to explore your sexuality in positive ways. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Sexual,Orientation aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/test-find-out-bisexual/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/test-find-out-bisexual/#comments Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:00:27 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/?p=1245 http://kinseyconfidential.org/test-find-out-bisexual/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/psychologists-sexual-orientation-changed/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/psychologists-sexual-orientation-changed/#comments Wed, 07 Oct 2009 11:00:52 +0000 Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/psychologists-sexual-orientation-changed/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/psychologists-sexual-orientation-changed/feed/ 1 http://kinseyconfidential.org/gay-facebook-profile/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/gay-facebook-profile/#comments Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:00:30 +0000 Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.) http://kinseyconfidential.org/gay-facebook-profile/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/gay-facebook-profile/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/boy-scouts-arrive-droves-campus/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/boy-scouts-arrive-droves-campus/#comments Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:30:51 +0000 Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=1124 http://kinseyconfidential.org/boy-scouts-arrive-droves-campus/feed/ 1 http://kinseyconfidential.org/harassment-sexual-orientation-public-policy/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/harassment-sexual-orientation-public-policy/#comments Wed, 29 Apr 2009 16:35:31 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=944 http://kinseyconfidential.org/harassment-sexual-orientation-public-policy/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/lesbian-bisexual/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/lesbian-bisexual/#comments Mon, 13 Apr 2009 13:00:40 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/qa-lesbian/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/lesbian-bisexual/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-marriage-news-iowa/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-marriage-news-iowa/#comments Thu, 09 Apr 2009 19:27:39 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=961 http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-marriage-news-iowa/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/kinsey-scale-sexual-orientation/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/kinsey-scale-sexual-orientation/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:39:02 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=953 http://kinseyconfidential.org/kinsey-scale-sexual-orientation/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/gayface/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/gayface/#comments Thu, 12 Mar 2009 17:47:53 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=943 http://kinseyconfidential.org/gayface/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-orientation-confusion/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-orientation-confusion/#comments Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:00:06 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=480 http://kinseyconfidential.org/sexual-orientation-confusion/feed/ 0 3:41 While we cannot tell you what your sexual orientation is, we can hopefully shed a little light on ways that you might think about your ... While we cannot tell you what your sexual orientation is, we can hopefully shed a little light on ways that you might think about your sexuality so that you can explore it in ways that feel right to you. Sexual Orientation: Sometimes Quite Nuanced Although sexual orientation is often described in ways that make people think one automatically knows if they are heterosexual (also called "straight"), homosexual (also called "gay" when talking about men or "lesbian" when talking about women) or bisexual (also called "bi"), sexual orientation is sometimes quite nuanced. Early Research In the 1930s, 40s and 50s, Dr. Alfred Kinsey and his research team noticed in their interviews with women and men that significant proportions of women and men showed fluid patterns of sexual behavior, dreams and fantasies in regard to the gender of the partner that they thought about or acted sexual with. People also varied in terms of what they did, sexually, or who they thought about in different periods of their lives. Later researchers in the 60s, 70s and 80s paid particular attention to these issues. They found that while some men, for example, might feel sexually attracted mainly to women, that they also sometimes fantasized about or even had sex with other men. Other times people were sexually attracted to members of both sexes, when they thought about who they wanted to spend their lives with, they could only imagine themselves with someone of the same gender, or maybe someone of the other gender. Not Just About Sexual Behavior These are just a couple of examples, the point being that in order to make sense of one's sexual orientation, some people find that it's helpful to think not only in terms of their sexual behavior, but also in terms of their sexual fantasies, their romantic preferences and who they can see themselves being in a relationship with. Though many people find it useful to give themselves a label such as straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual, not everyone does. Some people find that they don't quite fit into any of the standard categories and may label themselves as "queer", indicating that they embrace a more flexible identity that challenges existing labels. Others don't want any labels at all, and decide that - as life goes on - they want to remain open to falling in love, or falling in lust, with people of the same or other gender. Learn More If you're in a stage of self-exploration, you might find it helpful to connect with the Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays or the American Institute of Bisexuality. To learn more about the emotional side of relationship with men, as well as sexual aspects of male relationships, you might read The Male Couple. You can learn more about this book and others on our web site. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Sexual,Orientation aschweig@indiana.edu no No http://kinseyconfidential.org/new-queer-eharmony/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/new-queer-eharmony/#comments Thu, 04 Dec 2008 10:32:19 +0000 Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.) http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/12/04/a-new-queer-eharmony/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/new-queer-eharmony/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/gaydar-via-fingers/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/gaydar-via-fingers/#comments Thu, 27 Nov 2008 12:29:03 +0000 Samantha Seeger http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/11/27/gaydar-via-fingers/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/gaydar-via-fingers/feed/ 0 http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-fantasies/ http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-fantasies/#comments Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:00:59 +0000 Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) http://wfiutest.rtv.indiana.edu/?p=428 http://kinseyconfidential.org/same-sex-fantasies/feed/ 0 3:29 Sexual fantasies are commonly experienced (and frequently enjoyed) by women and men and they don't always reflect how we feel or the types of sex ... Sexual fantasies are commonly experienced (and frequently enjoyed) by women and men and they don't always reflect how we feel or the types of sex we long for in our waking life. Some people fantasize about being sexual with friends, strangers, neighbors or celebrities - even when they are in monogamous relationships or marriages - but that does not mean that they would actually want to be sexual with these people in reality. Other times, individuals find that they feel aroused by sexual fantasies or images (such as in porn) that relate to domination/submission, group sex, or forced sex. Again, that doesn't mean that a person would actually want to engage in these activities in real life; but people may find them arousing as fantasies. Also, sexual orientation doesn't always match up with one's fantasies. Heterosexual-identified women and men sometimes fantasize about members of their same sex and homosexual-identified women and men may fantasize about individuals of the other sex. Some sex researchers might suggest that sexual fantasies have little to do with sexual orientation, and that - if you have no other reason to believe that you are sexually attracted to women in real life - these fantasies may be arousing for any number of reasons. For one, we often see more images of attractive women looking sexual than we see of men, such as in popular women's magazines, men's magazines, movies and the internet. If fantasizing about women feels taboo to you, that element may add to the psychological excitement of your experience. Other sex researchers might suggest that this nuanced view of your behavior and fantasies is a reflection of the fluidity of sexuality, and the idea that many women and men are probably "bisexual" to some degree, or would be, if society didn't place such strict restrictions on people to behave certain ways. If you are curious about being romantically or sexually involved with women, and that feels appealing or comfortable to you, it may be worth exploring those feelings. That said, there is no one way to be bisexual, heterosexual or homosexual. Just because you enjoy being sexual with men doesn't mean that most of your fantasies have to be about them. Just because you enjoy fantasizing about women, or becoming aroused to such fantasies, doesn't mean that you have to be sexual with women or get into a relationship with them. The way that you live your sexual and romantic life is up to you to decide in a way that feels comfortable and enjoyable to you. To learn more about sexual orientation, including bisexuality, check out the web sites of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays or the American Institute of Bisexuality. Content,Type,,Podcast,,Sexual,Orientation aschweig@indiana.edu no No