Q&A: Is It Bad To Last Too Long While Masturbating?

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QUESTION: When I masturbate to porn I can last 15-20 minutes before I ejaculate, and without porn it can be 30 minutes even 45 minutes. Is it a bad thing to last too long?

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If you find that you are unable to come sooner as much as you try, then expanding your masturbation routine might help your body adapt to different types of stimulation.

Different Experiences

Men, like women, vary in terms of how they experience sexual arousal and orgasm. It is not unusual for men to describe feeling more or less aroused, or more or less easily orgasmic, in response to different sexual behaviors or experiences.

For example, some men find it easier to orgasm from intercourse than oral sex. Others find that it’s easier for them to orgasm, or quicker for them to orgasm, from masturbation than from vaginal or anal sex. So, it varies.

Trying New Things

Watching porn can be highly arousing to some men. If it helps you to feel very excited or aroused and you enjoy its role in your masturbation, that is not necessarily a bad thing.

However, if you would like to try to enhance your arousal during masturbation in other ways, there are plenty of options. For example, you might try texting with a partner, trying different hand positions, using lubricant or no lubricant, fantasizing or trying sex toys such as the Fleshlight or a masturbation sleeve.

What’s the Reason

I’d also like to ask you to consider whether you are lasting as long as 30 or 40 minutes without porn because you want to or because you can’t come sooner even if you try.

If you’re taking your time and lasting longer to enjoy the sensations, then more power to you! If you find that you are unable to come sooner as much as you try, then expanding your masturbation routine, as described earlier, might help your body adapt to different types of stimulation.

Even if you cannot come sooner, try to not let that trouble you. Masturbation is not the same as partnered sex and you may find that during sex with a partner, your experience of ejaculation and orgasm are quite different.

More Information

To learn more about ejaculation and learning to control the timing of your orgasm, check out The New Male Sexuality.

Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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    I agree that masturbation for a long time is not bad at all because we have different kinds of sexual urges which can be triggered by those hormones in our body. Every man have different kinds of sexual arousal in such a way that they can last. As long as you feel comfortable after you masturbate there's nothing wrong about your body.