Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.

Recent Posts by Dr. Debby:

• Q&A: My Husband And I Have A Power Struggle When It Comes To Sex

  

  Many couples have to deal with issues related to who initiates sex, how often they have sex, or who orgasms first (or at all).

• Q&A: Is It Unhealthy To Fantasize About My Ex When I Masturbate?

  

  You may have come to associate feelings of arousal with your ex. It’s not unusual, then, that when you masturbate, you think of your ex.

• Q&A: I Am Scared Of Having Sex Because Of Pregnancy and Bleeding

  

  You could consider masturbating using sex toys to help your vagina learn to stretch to accommodate a penis when you're ready to have intercourse.

• Q&A: I Fantastize About My Wife Having Sex With Other Men

  

  Fantasies in which a man fantasizes about his wife cheating with another man may be called “cuckoldry” fantasies or “hotwife” fantasies.

• Q&A: I Bled During Fingering. Should I Be Concerned?

  

  Cuts that result from sex play are quite small and often heal well on their own. Occasionally, vaginal cuts may require medical attention for proper healing.

• Q&A: I Can’t Orgasm When I Masturbate In Front Of My Boyfriend

  

  Sex is full of a range of sights, sounds and scents. These can greatly enhance people’s sexual arousal but they can also influence people’s worries.

• Q&A: My Boyfriend Always Has An Erection, Masturbates Constantly

  

  It may be that your boyfriend has trained himself to come quickly during masturbation, creating a quick ejaculatory response.

• Q&A: My Wife’s Fantasy Is To Have Four Guys Ejaculate On Her Face

  

  Although some women and men fantasize about bukkake, which is the practice of several men ejaculating on a woman, you are wise to consider the risks involved.

• Q&A: Have I Been Desensitized To Sex?

  

  You may be surprised at the number of women and men who remember doing sexual things, alone or with friends around their same age, when they were younger.

• Q&A: I Only Get Sexually Turned On When I’ve Been Drinking

  

  If your boyfriend is like most people, he will want you to enjoy the types of touching and sexual intimacy that you’re engaged in.

• Q&A: What Are The Chances Of Contracting An STI From A Sex Worker?

  

  Prostitutes are required to use condoms, which greatly reduces the risk of passing infections between partners.

• Q&A: What Are The Chances She Is Pregnant?

  

  If you find yourself meeting people and hooking up with them, then you might want to carry two or three condoms with you when you go to parties.

• Q&A: How Do Women Experience Multiple Orgasms?

  

  Some women find that they feel more aroused if they fantasize, use dirty talk, role play, dress up or have sex with lights on or off.

• Q&A: My Partner Experiences Pain During Penetrative Sex

  

  Chronic vaginal or vulvar pain is experienced by about 10 to 15% of women in the United States.

• Q&A: Dating Women But Fantasizing About Men. Straight, Gay, or Bi?

  

  The idea of having labels to define or describe people’s sexual orientation is freeing for many people.

• Q&A: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With Me

  

  If you are able to talk to each other about your sexual interests, you may find ways to create a shared sexual experience that you both enjoy.

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