Q&A: Did I Aggrevate My Infection?

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QUESTION: I'm a massive nail biter, and last week I chewed my nails a bit too much and my finger got infected. I then went out and in a drunken stupor I fingered a girl. In the morning my finger had swollen to about twice the size it already was. An hour ago I squeezed it in boiling water and loads of pus and blood came out. Do you think I should see a doctor?

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Any time you hurt yourself and it keeps hurting, it's a good idea to check in with a healthcare provider such as a doctor or nurse.

Any time you hurt yourself and it keeps hurting, or gets worse, or seems to result in an infection, it’s a good idea to check in with a healthcare provider such as a doctor or nurse.

Though there is nothing particularly dirty or dangerous about vaginas, it sounds like you already had an infected finger.

The moisture of the girl’s vagina and/or the friction of fingering her may have made your finger a bit worse, or it may have gotten worse either way.

In any case, it would be wise to check in with a healthcare provider sooner rather than later.

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Read Dr. Debby Herbenick’s response.

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Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.)

is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.
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  • Dannyariasg

    ummm . . . you misspelled aggravate. still great show though